Endings or Beginnings? Taking your next steps

The final A Level exams took place last Friday, the end of an era for many students across the UK. Certainly when we think of endings for school and university leavers images of signed shirts, joyously running out of the building and carefree summers are often shown. For many there is joy at closing this chapter, however for some this is not the case.

What is important to remember, is that your experience is valid and that mixed feelings are also OK. There may be happiness in some aspects, fond memories even, yet some parts of the experience may not sit easily emotionally. In fact, it can also be that some feelings are unexpected, an end to something that has for years been your normal and routine can throw up some feelings of loss.

Working in education for a long time it became apparent to me as a therapist that endings are important to next steps, so however you feel about the ending and whatever your next steps, consider these points when you experience an ending:

1. Reflect on your journey. Endings provide an opportunity for self-reflections, even the challenges we have experienced we can acknowledge the growth we gained from them. Perhaps also look at your achievements, challenges and personal growth for a balanced view.
2. Closure and Celebration. Endings provide an opportunity to close one chapter and look to a new beginning. Whether you take part in celebrations such as graduation ceremonies or farewell parties or acknowledge the end however it feels right for you it can be useful to punctuate an end in your journey.
3. Embrace change. Leaving school or university can often mean new environments and experiences. Recognising that endings pave the way for fresh beginnings. Taking change at your own pace is crucial and knowing what that pace is for you is important too.
4. Saying goodbye. Bid farewell to teachers, classmates and familiar routines in your own way. Some goodbyes can be bittersweet but they still mark the end of a significant era.
5. Explore all options. Sometimes it can feel like there is only one or two routes after school or university but there are always other options and finding one that suits you is important.
6. Build your network. Find a group of people you can talk to, openly and honestly. This is usually made up of different people from different areas of your life as this will provide a range of perspectives. Sometimes, someone away from your day to day life is also useful for an impartial perspective.

Remember: however you manage your endings and beginnings, take time to consider what’s best for you.